How to stop dating emotionally unavailable men
Instead, emotional chasing involves a woman investing her time and energy in a man who is only half-interested or capable of a real relationship.
The most important traits to look for are emotional stability, reliability and kindness.
The key is to accept that there’s a problem, do the work to change, and have faith that a good, consistent man is waiting for you once you’re ready.
If you make sincere efforts to give a new type of man – an emotionally available one – a chance, each effort will bring you one step closer to a man who’s good for you.
Characteristics of the Emotional Chaser: If you repeat the pattern of emotional chasing, it means that…
• You tend to fall for men who ultimately won’t commit and settle down or who will cheat on you • You are usually more emotionally committed to the relationship than your partner is • You feel like your partner has all the control and power in the relationship • You often feel less worthy than your partner, as if your partner were more interesting or desirable than you are • You believe you have to work hard to keep him interested because you’re afraid he will otherwise leave and find someone else • You try to shape yourself into being what you think your partner wants If this is a pattern you repeat, there’s both help and hope ahead for you.
Now that you’ve spent time working on the insight part, it’s time to focus on some of the behaviors you can change to set out on a course to meet men who are more suitable for you.